Father's Day Dining

A scant two days in advance, I decided to put together a Father's Day brunch. We already had our daughter's boyfriend's folks driving up from Roseburg, so it seemed like the perfect opportunity to invite my family to join us.
We drove to Costco to purchase sausage, eggs, cheese, asiago bread, bacon, a fruit tray and a blueberry lemon coffee cake. I put together a BIG strata, ground the coffee and blended the orange juice the night before. I asked family to bring strawberries and champagne. I'm not known for being the queen of planning meals for a crowd - not even a princess. I'd rather head to a restaurant when the stress is on, but our lush, green, shaded backyard convinced me that the afternoon would be more enjoyable for all if we entertained at home. Everything turned out super - good food, good company AND good weather. :>)
My family is known for staying and enjoying the day, so before we knew it dinner time had arrived. Now why didn't I plan for that??
N and I, thought of two restaurant possibilities. We hopped into our vehicles, drove into town and hoped the crowds weren't too crazy. First stop, Bigfoot - closed. Second stop, Marco Polo - closed. Naturally, company was ready to head up the freeway, stopping at the first fast food place they could pull into easily. N and I, decided to try Boon's Treasury - OPEN! We were able to push some outside tables together and settle in for dinner. The only complaint I heard was concerning the temperature of the coffee.
What I'm curious about is the lack of crowds. Why do so many people dine out for Mother's Day and so few on Father's Day? Was everyone in their backyard barbecuing or at family potlucks?


Salem Man said...

I can't speak for all fathers, but staying at home on Father's Day is the best. During the week, I'm out and about a lot, so staying in I can relax and catch up on unfinished projects or play some catch with the kids. My wife can make a better breakfast than anywhere else in town and I can eat it in my pajamas. Sounds like you guys had a nice time, too bad Bigfoot was closed. I think a prime rib or one of those massive burgers would be a perfect Father's Day dinner. Boone's is great too.

mama2dylan said...

Moms love to go out on Mother's Day because they cook and clean all year. This is their big day out. Dads frankly don't care. And yes, I do believe they prefer a family BBQ or dinner at home. :)

Anonymous said...

My, what sexist, 50's thinking you have mama2dylan. My dad cooks and cleans and loves a nice meal out.

K & N said...

Our household is also fairly traditional. Is it a generational thing? (oops! my age is showing!)
N is happy to cook and clean and I'm happy to mow the lawn and wash the car, but usually he takes care of the outside chores and I take on the inside.

Salem Man said...

Let's not call each other names here. I don't think M2D meant to degrade women or say that all women are the same. If you disagree with what she said, make your best argument about why you believe she is wrong. Calling each other names is unproductive and discouraging to the free flow of ideas and comments on the blog. I hope that the above anonymous poster continues to read and participate in the open discussion. By the way, I cook and clean all the time.

mama2dylan said...

Well I was born in the 50's when it was traditional for most women to stay at home, cook, clean and raise the kids. My mother took care of the inside my father took care of the outside and provided for us. I was a stay at home mom for 9 years of my sons 10 years. I loved it and have no regrets.

When I married, my husband and I agreed he'd take care of the outside & I the inside. To make a long story short we both work now, my husband will and does do anything I need him to on the INSIDE of the house. In fact he even does laundry and/or loads or unloads the dishwasher. He is a BBQ master and our deck and yard look wonderful thanks to him. But I think you will find in general women prefer to be pampered in ways that don't matter to men.

We never go out to eat on any holiday, too crowded and it really isn't important to either one of us b/c we dine out frequently during the year when and where we want for no special reason.

I don't consider myself sexist. In fact I have a very open mind. I lived the 70's in NYC. I've lived and experienced more in my lifetime than many people could ever even dream of. Alto I may be called sexist at times b/c I think secretly women rule the world and are the backbone to many men in their lives. ;)

another opinion said...

That was a pretty bad generalization on M2D's part though. Lots of men like to be pampered, my husband included. We share in all the household chores. We're both 30 if you think that makes a difference. I don't think it's age as much as being open to different ideas and not sticking to outdated sterotypes.

mama2dylan said...

I am NOT "sticking to outdated stereotypes" here. The original comment was "What I'm curious about is the lack of crowds. Why do so many people dine out for Mother's Day and so few on Father's Day? Was everyone in their backyard barbecuing or at family potlucks?". That comment says a lot about stereotypical dinning habits for Father's Day vs. Mother's Day period. In general Mother's Day is a much busier dinning day for restaurants than Father's Day b/c like it or not most people take Mom out and not Dad. Sure many men like to be pampered and dine out just the same, as well as share in the household duties, but the consensus says many men would be just as happy or prefer to stay at home w/ the family and BBQ.

I have worked in the restaurant business ALL of my life and I am 52 years old. Mother's Day was ALWAYS THE BUSIEST day of the year period. Father's Day was not much different than a normal Saturday night. The proof is in the pudding else Father's Day would be a busy restaurant day and more restaurants would choose to be open so as not to miss a potentially money making day.

And like it or not there are still more families in this day and age where the man is either the bread winner or takes home a bigger pay check than the woman b/c unfortunately men still get paid more than women in most cases today. And again the stay at home moms out there outnumber the stay at home dads. According to a U.S. Bureau of the Census report released in May 2006, there were 143,000 stay-at-home dads versus 5.6 million stay-at-home moms.

K & N said...

I still find the lack of Father's Day diners fascinating in that from the customer to the business owner, we all are quick to embrace a reason to celebrate. This includes going out to eat, gathering at a family table or picnicking.
I guess I just haven't been paying close attention to what the majority do on that second Sunday in June.